It can be tricky to tell if a relationship is unhealthy or will become unsafe. Subtle, ongoing behaviors can appear gradually over time and sometimes progress to forms of physical violence. And since every relationship is different, the signs of domestic violence won’t be the same for everyone.
To get power and control, abusers use several types of abuse:
If you or someone you know is experiencing one or more of these and would like to talk to a advocate to discuss the situation, receive support and to learn about options call the confidential Minnesota Day One Crisis Hotline at 1.866.223.1111
If you think your relationship is unhealthy or abusive, the most important thing is your safety. You likely have mixed feelings about what to do and wonder if you’re doing the right thing. Think about the following points as you consider your options:
Care for yourself. Being in an unhealthy relationship is stressful, Eat well, exercise and get enough sleep. Take time to be with friends and family. Do things to nurture yourself and gain strength.
Get support. Abusers isolate their partners. Stay in touch with friends, family, teachers, and others. Let them know you’re thinking of leaving. Lean on their support. Advocates are just a phone call away.
You can’t change someone else. Don’t believe it when they say they’ll change. Ignore words and notice behavior. You haven’t done anything wrong and you can’t make your partner act differently by changing your behavior.
Take action to stay safe. Consider leaving your partner before the abuse gets worse. It’s a hard decision; it may not be the right one for you. You know what is best for your life, but we’re here to help you sort out options, offer information and provide referrals.
Finding Options through the Day One Network
If you are being hurt emotionally, physically, or sexually by someone close to you, know that you have a right to live without fear and violence. Speak with an advocate from Day One today. Call 1.866.223.1111.